Fidelity Is Possible: A Conversation with My Son

Dear Son

Raising you at the age of 55 is a surreal blessing for me.
3 days ago, you are 3½ years old today, and I know how fast time flies, you are growing, and so am I.

I believe God for long life to walk with you into your future, but I also know that longevity rests in His sovereign hands.

While I live, I must do the work of the one who sent me, for the night comes when no man can work.

That is why I document these conversations, so that if you ever need to know what your father believed, you will not be left to wonder.

Today, I want to speak to you about something sacred: the sanctity of marriage and the meaning of fidelity.

Son, we live in a world where wrong is being normalized and vows are treated as conveniences.

Marriage, once honored, is now treated casually.
People flout their marriage vows and justify it under many guises , even health reasons like “preventing prostate cancer.”

But when a society begins to trivialize its most sacred commitments, it erodes the foundation upon which trust and community are built.

You must know, son:
An oath must mean something.
Fidelity must mean something.
Probity must mean something.

If a man commits to monogamy, he must honor that vow.
If a man believes polygamy is his path, he must marry under laws or faith traditions that permit it.

But you must never make an oath you do not intend to keep.
Honor your commitments not only when they are convenient, but especially when they are hard.

And, son, let us make this clear:
Polygamy is not promiscuity.
Our forefathers who practiced polygamy married additional wives — they did not live recklessly.
Sleeping around is not polygamy; it is lawlessness and dishonor.

When society says, “men are wired to cheat,” it insults manhood itself.
Men are not animals driven by instinct.
We are beings of conscience, spirit, and discipline.

Son, you are not called to be ruled by appetite.
You are called to live with integrity, honor, and restraint.

Mistakes happen ,yes, we are human, but stumbling must never be codified into a way of life.

You do not turn your error into your constitution.
You rise. You repent. You rebuild.
That is the way of honor.

In this house, we believe that fidelity is possible.
That marriage can be built on trust and kept in trust.
That an oath can be made, and kept.

I am building this society inside our home, son.
And it is my joy to raise you to know that honor is not old-fashioned, it is eternal.

This is my conversation with you today.
This is the seed I am planting in your heart for tomorrow.

With love and fierce hope,
Dad

Call to Action:

 As you read this, I invite us to reflect:
What seeds are we planting in the hearts of the next generation?

Let us not merely complain about the state of the world.
Let us build better homes, raise stronger sons, and model lives where fidelity, probity, and honor are not just ideals, they are lived realities.

If you believe fidelity is still possible, share this conversation.
Let’s raise a generation that keeps its word.

Do have an INSPIRED week ahead with your families.